The funny thing about writing on love is almost every post I’m reminded of a song. Like today all I can think of is “what is love? Baby don’t hurt me, don’t hurt me, no more..” Anyways, I felt compelled on this journey to love intentionally to define love. In our culture today, for a variety of reasons, love has become confined to this sexual love box that quite frankly I don’t believe it belongs in. Actually even the Oxford Dictionary defines love in this way:
an intense feeling of deep affection:“babies fill parents with intense feelings of love”
a deep romantic or sexual attachment to someone:“it was love at first sight”synonyms: infatuated with · besotted with · enamored of ·
While this type of love is real there is so much more to loving a person than being emotionally attached or physically loving them. The bible defines love differently. It explains true unconditional love. Love that doesn’t depend on our feelings but remains despite our feelings 1 Corinthians actually lays out in detail what real love is,
Many of us have heard these verses over and over but when you break down the truth of scripture. You realize how far as a culture we’ve missed the mark on this one. Love is not some fairy tale ending even though I some days I desperately wish it could be. Love is not an amazing feel we get when we care for someone. It isn’t a sweet kiss or a bouquet of flowers. All these are just the effects of Love. Love is choosing the good of another person over your own good. Sacrifice. It’s not always fun, it’s not always easy, and quite frankly more often than not it’s something I don’t feel like doing, but it’s good. And love that has been tested is deep and rich. That is why at the end of 1 Corinthians 13 Paul writes “But now faith, hope, love, abide these three; but the greatest of these is love.”
So today I’m taking a moment to breathe and consider what it really means to “abide” in love. I’m considering ways to step out of what is easy for me and do something hard for someone. Something that actually puts their good above my own. I pray you can do the same thing too.